I really screwed up when I first got into the business--I believed that I would be judged on the quality of my work and not who I knew. Stupid!
I kept to myself, worked overtime and let my work speak for itself. I never made any attempt to get close to my managers. That would be considered "kissing up," right? In short, I never allowed myself to be mentored. I won awards and helped my stations thrive, but the fact is that I certainly could have used a mentor. My father died when I was in college, so I never really had that strong male influence, especially when it came to business.
We can all use a little help, not only in our careers, but in our lives and it's funny that people, especially business superiors, want to help. Most bosses I've had and met actually love mentoring younger, less experienced employees.
This sort of friendship, advice and guidance is invaluable and will certainly help you achieve successes you could not achieve just on the value of your work.
"It's not what you know, but who you know." Isn't that the phrase we all know? Well, the truth lies in both parts of the sentence. If you are an untalented idiot, you might bluff your way into some jobs, but ultimately will hit your ceiling.
But if you're qualified and have integrity, gravitating toward like-minded executives, whether or not you work for them, it certainly couldn't hurt. Being liked and believed-in by a great manager can make your career.
What happens, though, if the person who has taken an interest in you as a protege, has ethics that are (how do we say it?) questionable?
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I once worked for a general manager who was a real hard charger, a great negotiator and a well-known broadcaster. But this GM was also known as unethical, had a habit of bending the truth and had a brusque "take no prisoners" philosophy. If you mildly disagreed with him even once, you were out of sight and out of mind.
When a great producer of mine asked nicely that he not make fun of where she went to college, he punished her by never talking to her again and tried to get her to quit (which she did, to my unhappiness). Sound stupid? Get the picture? Every bit of success at the station rotated around him.
Unfortunately, this guy really liked me, gave me guidance and pushed me to do things I never thought I could. He also paid me a lot of money.
What do you do when your mentor is a stinker?
Slowly, I took on his traits and was becoming everything I hate in a manager--unreasonable, inflexible and hard to deal with. Prior to meeting this boss, I had worked mostly for ex-sales people who had no understanding or tolerance for creatives. You know the kind--every pitch on every idea is met with the kind of look when a dog cocks its head when it hears something it doesn't understand. "You want to do whaaat?"
Don't get me wrong, I've had a great career and worked with and for some great broadcasters, but
your mentor should be one who is in lock step with your career--one who will not only inspire you but move you up as he or she moves up.
Unfortunately, I took these hard-charging characteristics with me to a few stations where it was not part of their culture, and I had to adapt.
Here's a great article on
10 Tips for getting the most from your mentor.
I've had the pleasure to mentor dozens of younger people throughout my
career. I only hope they picked up better traits than I did, and became
great managers themselves.
So, make sure you hitch a wagon to a superstar who will let your true light shine. Hopefully, your mentor won't be someone who is reviled and causes you to develop a management style you end up regretting. Just use your best judgment to keep their best traits and discard the worst. Be yourself...only better.
You can't do it alone, but hopefully you'll have fun learning and growing under the tutelage of someone who will help you blossom and bloom and help you become the success you were meant to be.
If your mentor turns out to be a stinker, move on to another. There are plenty of good mentors in the sea.
--Rich Brase
rich@richideas.net